Cha-Cha-Cha Changes

Moving to Northern California

“Everything changes, nothing remains without change.”  ~Buddha

I have always loved change. My favorite and wisest changes have been the ones that I went into kicking and screaming with resistance.  What we need the most, is usually what we resist the most. That was me when I resisted moving to the Olympic Peninsula in Washington State from Maine in 2003.

I was happy in Maine living close to my family, friends and the wonderful ocean that has my favorite walking beach in the world. I had bought a house on my own and had a waiting list of clients. Life was fulfilling, peaceful and joyful.

Then it happened.

Just when I realized how happy I was with myself, and my life of being single again after a 23-year marriage, a wonderful man named Michael showed up.

I do know that you have to love yourself and your life first before Mr. or Ms. Right will show up. By that time, you may just resist a relationship. You think to yourself, “Where were you when I really wanted someone in my life? Why didn’t you show up back then?” Now that you are completely content they decide to show up!

I gave up on looking well before he showed up by building a lifestyle for myself that worked well. To hell with a relationship!  I was going to enjoy my life without a man. And it worked.

When he showed up, I resisted anything but a relationship as good friends. That went on for months over the phone from Washington to Maine until we realized that we wanted to be together.

He wanted us to live together in Port Townsend, Washington where he was working.  Moving to Washington was a tough decision for me. I was so happy in my life. I kept telling Spirit to give me signs to show me if this was the right thing to do. And the little signs I got, I ignored.

I was looking for signs that would prevent me from giving up my perfect life in Maine, for a man. I didn’t get any of those signs; I kept getting the green light signs. I kept asking for more signs because I wasn’t getting the message I wanted.  A bright flashing red light would sure make it easy for me. How arrogant of me!

The signs got stronger. So strong, I couldn’t resist anymore.

Spirit had an eagle talk to me over the phone… yup, that’s right. Michael was sitting on his deck over-looking the Olympic Mountains on Discovery Bay. An eagle was sitting in the tree across the street eaves dropping on our conversation. I kept making excuses to Michael why I couldn’t move 3000 miles away.  Every time I made an excuse, the eagle would squawk which I could hear over the phone in Maine. Seriously, this happened several times during the conversation. We even played with this by me saying, “okay, I’ll live there” and the eagle was quiet. The minute I said, “no, I can’t move out there” the eagle would squawk again.  Michael finally said to me, “didn’t you tell me the eagle was your power animal?” Well he had me on that one.

I came out to visit for a week to check out Port Townsend. While Michael was working one beautiful sunny fall afternoon I walked the beach, this time the Pacific side. I asked Spirit over and over again for another sign. After a two-hour walk, with no signs that I saw or heard, I headed back up the street to Michael’s house.  I looked up the hill and saw a hawk flying in a tight circle over some houses. Hawk is another one of my power animals. Hawk brings messages from Spirit so I always try to figure out the message for me when I see a hawk. So I asked hawk in my mind, “do you have a message for me?”

As I continued walking up the hill past all of the houses in the neighborhood, I got closer to the hawk. I was taken aback when I realized this beautiful hawk was flying a tight circle right over Michael’s house! I started to laugh out loud. In fact I was laughing so hard, I stopped walking and just watched the hawk. “Okay hawk that is a very clear message, thank you!” I was over-joyed with how Spirit was not going to let me get away with not listening.  I was laughing at my self for trying to resist what Spirit has designed for me with perfection.  I had finally surrendered!

At that point, I knew I would move to Washington. I knew it was a perfect place and a perfect time with the perfect man. I knew it so much, I emotionally moved in right then and there. That was confirmed when I continued my walk up the hill and turned into Michael’s driveway. I noticed my car was gone. I panicked. Where was my car? It was there before I left. I could see it in my minds eye, parked right there in the carport. Then it came to me, I flew here, my car was in Maine!

I walked in the house and stated, “Hello, I’m home.”

I’ve been here nine years now and nine is the number of completion. I have completed my time here; it’s now time to move on. I will be sad to leave this beautiful peninsula, my beautiful home, the many friends and the wonderful clients I have in my life here. I do know that the people who are in your ‘tribe’ won’t let you out of their sight, nor will you let them out of yours. There are many ways to hang onto your closest connections these days. I’ve learned over the years that many times these connections grow with separation.

This time I am listening to Spirit without resisting. I have surrendered.  As fun as it was getting all those ‘Spiritual Kick in the Butt’ signs, the stress is not worth it. I learned my lesson the last time around. So Michael and I are selling our home here and moving to the Sacramento area. Michael has accepted a new job in that location and for me, I can work anyplace as most of my sessions are done over the phone.

Without resistance, everything is working out easily and effortlessly. That’s when you know it’s right. So, no resistance here. That doesn’t mean I won’t miss this life, but I look forward to being in a new area to share my new workshops with new people and expand my awareness to a new level. A new path awaits me and I accept it with joy and ease.

When our home sells here we will find a new home in a town outside of Sacramento. I would love it if you would share my newsletter with any friends or family that may be in or around the San Francisco/Sacramento area.

I hope all of the changes presented to you be seen as a gift from Spirit. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like a gift at first, but when you look back at it, you will see that it truly was a gift. Have faith and trust with Spirit. Everything is perfect at this very moment, don’t you think?

About The Author

Mary has joyfully played with her passion as a psychic medium, teacher, speaker and healer most of the last 40 years of her life. Mary uses her unique and uncanny gifts, inherited from her Irish Grandmother, to empower people with tools for healing the body, mind and spirit.


  1. Michael says:

    That Michael sound like a really nice guy. I bet he even cooks dinner for you……..

  2. Carole Mathews says:

    Dearest Mary,

    I am so happy for you and do wish you and Michael the very best with this new path you have chosen. How exciting for you both to move to a new place, making new friends and gaining new experiences.
    There is nothing so permanent as change! It’s so nice to know you are embracing it with an open heart and an open mind!
    Love and peace to you.


  3. Cindi Parmley says:

    I love you Mary!! How wonderful that you are moving to the same area that has been calling me for years! I wish I was going with you. We both know how special it is there.

    Can’t wait to hear about your new adventures. Good Luck and God Bless, my Dear Friend!


  4. Mary Morgan says:

    Hi Mary, I just signed up for a reading, in person, on Wednesday and I’m looking forward to it. I had a wonderful reading with you about a year and a half ago. A few of my friends have also enjoyed and learned from readings with you. I wish you well in your new location and sounds like you keep making the right decisions by listening to your spirit. Good luck and see you on Wednesday. Mary Morgan

  5. Guy Allen says:

    We are very happy for you and Michael. I look forward to seeing you later this month for our family reading. You have been a great teacher and although we really don’t know each other that well, I consider you a friend, perhaps from another time.
    See you soon!

  6. Thank you, Mary, for this. I have been trying to open my mind to signs that things are going to get better for me! This story has provided inspiration and comfort for me! I will miss you and I hope your new life in Sacramento will be great!

    • Hi Joan,

      Thank you for your kind wishes! I will be coming up to PT on occasion, so look for my emails. I love this area and want to continue doing sessions and workshops here. I am also available over the phone if you needed anything. I wish you well with finding what brings you joy!!



  7. Janet says:

    Hi Mary,
    This is a beautiful story!! I am so very happy for you!

  8. Janet says:

    I hope, that you and Michael have a great life together!

  9. Janet says:

    Hi Janet,

    Thank you for your kind wishes! I hope you are well and happy!



  10. HUNT BARCLAY says:

    Hi Mary, Wow. Haven’t heard a word of this yet from from your in laws…
    Sacramento. My advice: Buy a houseboat, cruise the slews that meander through the delta, between the San Jaquin(sp?) and Sacramento Ma did that 40 odd years ago and we had a blast; little towns like Rio Vista and Terminus, lost in the past, and over a thousand miles of interesting waterways…Rio Vista is a good town to keep your boat.
    Look forward to seeing you both when you are East…save an evening and afternoon for cookout and boating on Silver Lake, LOL Hunt and co.
    PS. Still going cosmic with my one on the easel upstairs,
    the ‘COSMIC BREATH’. Johno gives me great inspiration on these efforts.
    Hi To Michael

    • Hi Barclay,

      What a great idea! I will be bringing my rowing skull and will spend plenty of time on the water. Look forward to a cookout in NH on the lake! I can’t wait to see the magic you are creating with Cosmic Breath!

  11. Karen says:

    I loved reading your story. I am very happy for you and Micheal, i have found every “place” has it’s own beauty, Enjoy. Aloha, Karen

  12. Rosy Hayden says:

    Enjoy your new adventure w/ your “honey”. Wishing you all the best!
    Rosy H

  13. Ann Hall says:

    Mary, I SO enjoyed reading your “life’s story”. I love that the eagle and hawk brought you messages. I receive messages this way as well. For me it’s Raven and Hawk. I know you and Michael will be happy in Sacramento….because “you are going with the flow” and heeding the messages of eagle and hawk. God bless our power animals!! 🙂 I’m so glad I got to meet you before you moved away!

    many blessings…
    love, Ann

  14. Teresa Verraes says:

    I love how you write Mary! Thanks for telling your Michael story. It reminds me to ask the spirit and listen to the answers, even the ever so quiet ones.
    Do you think you will still be here in June for Barbara’s wedding?
    I imagined all of us there together, kinda like the Ya Ya Sisterhood ~ isn’t that silly.
    I also want at least one more sit down session with you. It is so magical and calming being in your presence. I will schedule with you in the next couple of weeks.

    xoxo T

  15. Jean Hallmark says:

    I want to thank you for opening the pathway to healing and acceptance for my daughter Nichole and myself; you have been a true instrument of faith.
    As your changes have challenged our directions, who would you suggest to assist us in continuing our spiritual journey? You have taken our hands and showed us what ‘could be”; who can we turn to for the next phase of our learning. My Daughter and Sister-in-Law April gained immeasurable insights through your training and readings; I so want to continue that process for all of us. You have been a great mentor; one I felt immediate trust and “kinship”; who can show us the “truth” in your absence? My happiness for your journey is matched by my selfishness to have you with us always.
    Please allow the path between us, though long and arduous, to remain open and admired. Bless you and your michael!
    Safe harbor- jean

  16. Kate Mikusko says:

    Hi Mary. I am interested in prices for your Ireland trip 2013? Please advise! Thank you!

  17. Bailey says:

    Hi Mary!

    Northern Cali is gorgeous–I live here with my gorgeous two year old and fiancé–welcome!
    I decided to research someone who could help myself and my family possibly get a reading, as we’ve struggled tremendously after loosing my big brother suddenly on June 10th, 2015. It was sudden, he was young and healthy, the autopsy was a joke and basically not much was found. Our hearts ache and so many things left unsaid STILL. The last memory I have is seeing his leg off of his bed as he lay there peacefully. I am a nurse and had left the house for minutes and that haunts me thinking I could of saved him somehow. I’ve been trying to communicate with him and nothing so far. I have some small abilities myself but nowhere near you. After researching I would love to book something for myself and my mom. My biggest question is would my brother even be able to communicate because it happened not too long ago?

    • I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. It’s so difficult to lose a loved one especially when it’s unexpected. I won’t disturb a spirit that has crossed over until 3 months have past. That being said, we can certainly do our best to channel in your brother.

      You mentioned that you have been trying unsuccessfully to communicate with your brother. Know that it is very hard for most people to do this for their loved ones. It’s much easier for me to communicate with other people’s loved ones and not easy at all for me to do this for my own loved ones! That can be so frustrating at times.

      It would help you to read about what to expect and how to prepare.
      You can book a session on my site.
      I do phone readings with people from all over the world and also do ‘in person’ sessions in the Sacramento area. Know that your brother does hear you, so please keep talking with him.

      Blessings to you,


      • Bailey says:

        Thank you for the reply! Just reading that my brother can hear us is heartwarming–my mom shed a tear reading that sentence, so thank you. She wants to book an appointment very soon–it will probably be phone, unless in person is considered any better. Thank you again!

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